Looking ahead

Posted on Posted in Emotional Guidance, Making future plans

While you’re in hospital, the same four walls can be very, very boring.

Sometimes, it’s nice to make future plans & give yourself something to look forward to – they don’t have to be big or extravagant, just organising a get-together with friends can give you a focus. Or if you’re too tired, ask someone else to do it!

I was lucky with my family & friends – they made sure that there was always something on the horizon to look forward to! But having cancer definitely puts things into perspective  & with a lot of time to think, your mind will probably turn to the future.

It can look daunting; cancer treatment can usually leave you with long term effects to deal with but don’t fear – making the most of today will more than likely be your priority.

I found that the following things helped me with making plans for the future:

  • Reading different books helped me to escape my own life & situation – I could be in a different place instantly! It motivated me to experience more of life once I was better.
  • On top of that, I used to collect travel brochures & make notes of the places I really wanted to see – I’ve still got a bucket list of things I wanna do!
  • Think of ways in which you can make your life healthier & more fulfilling to keep up your strength – things like taking a daily walk or having time to yourself can make a big difference.
  • If your fertility might have been affected by treatment – seek advice on what options may be available for you. If it’s important to you that you have children – make sure you know where you stand & the roads you can take.
  • Don’t let cancer rule you – it’s one part of your life!

In my personal experience:

  • In terms of long term effects, the treatment that I had has weakened my heart, affected my hearing in a minor way, given me slight mobility issues & may have affected my fertility.
  • On a day to day basis, I’m not affected majorly by any of these things & I haven’t been classed as disabled for about 5 years now.
  • I sometimes suffer from palpitations, I only struggle to hear in crowded rooms & my mobility is pretty good since I tried my damn hardest with my physio sessions!
  • In fact, from the outside, most people can’t even tell I had cancer at all unless they see my scars!
  • The thing that worries me the most is that I may not be able to have a baby but this isn’t set in stone & I won’t find out until I try for one! So for now, it’s all looking pretty positive!

Don’t let the future overwhelm you at the moment – concentrate on today & keep on fighting!

Allie x